Saturday, 17 May 2014

All of Us 17 May 2014



There was hardly any dialogue at a visible level between my grandmother Ahilya and my grandfather Vasudeo. Whatever exchange I noted between them was through someone or the other who happened to be around and the family being very large, they could carry on in this way without any hindrance. Most of the time my grandfather’s needs, which were kind of bare necessities like an occasional cup of tea,or some such odd things, were taken care of without even a demand. I wonder if being surrounded by so many was really an advantage or a barrier! This continued right through till her dying days when she had to be confined to bed for nearly a month. I remember him on that day, and among most of the faded memories the image of him sitting aloof, maintaining a stoic silence all through that day, still lingers in my mind as I think of that day.
I came to know later from one of my elder cousins that my grandfather had fallen in love with Ahilya when he was living under the shelter of his paternal uncle back in the ancestral village called Saral in Konkan, the coastal region of Western India. He had lost his parents very early in childhood. His uncle was opposed to the marriage. Living a loveless and aimless life there in the village was no good for him. He gave up his share in whatever agricultural landed property they had in the village and came to Bombay with Ahilya. I was rather amused when I considered this romantic aspect of their life which was little known and of little concern to us, the grandchildren.
In those days of the British rule in India when he landed in Bandra to seek new avenues of life, one could get a good job with education up to matriculation. As children we were not supposed to show undue curiosity about the financial status of the elders of the family. So all I knew was that he held a responsible position in a shipping company and was considered one of the well-to-do persons in Bandra in those days.
The silent relationship between the two of them was imbibed by the house thoroughly. The house bustled with the constant coming and going of people, but unconsciously, the presence and the silent relationship between these two, characterized the life of that house while they were alive.
In my memory of the house, I remember mostly the afternoon warmth of the winter, the smoldering heat of summer and the sounds of the winds, the rustle of the leaves and the sudden sweeping rainfall after the gathering of dark grey clouds in the rainy seasons, and in all the seasons of the year, the house was engulfed by a certain calm and peace that was reflected in the sounds of the steady footfall on the wooden staircase at all times.
It was a beautiful house in the memory of all who came to it carrying different auras and vibes at different periods of our lives and without knowing what the house did to us, we came to belong to it, to be owned by it. Like a gust of wind flowing vibrantly through a wood of bamboo trees, the house sent its sounds and silence into our minds even as life forced us to move away from it in space and time.  

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